The Art of Forgiving and Letting go

Came across an article about how you should take responsibility of your own feelings when something doesn’t go according to your way or when someone say some rude remark that hurts you. As long as you blame others for your feelings, as long as you believe that it’s THEM who caused you to feel that way, you are stuck and headed for deeper problems. You will find that happiness is slipping away as sooner or later, everyone that you know might disappoint you in some way. So most importantly, walk away from disappointment and choose your own feeling. Sounds chim?

Well, it really relates to my current situation as I have a huge argument with one of my colleague just last week and it's NOT really the first time it happened!!! And she’s supposed to be my “good” friend at work. I just cannot communicate with her at times. Must be our birth character clash sia. Otherwise why do we always have misunderstanding? Pengz.

From last week to now, we aren’t talking to each other during work at all. IF there is, it’s only for work purpose. Arghh… I just can’t be bothered to put on a fake front to talk to someone who hurt my feeling. NO way am I going to initiate a start-off!! I’m truly am disappointed at the way as to how she treats a friend. Firstly, I don’t like people to beat around the bush and talk in circles and would very much appreciate if you can just tell me what’s going on in your mind. It’s frustrating to guess what’s everyone is thinking every time. I need direct answer! Secondly, don’t throw your weight around just because you are older than me. It’s doesn’t mean that you don’t need to admit your mistake and that you are always right every time. Also, pls don’t presume and try to act smart. Lastly, I hate people bring up other matters which has no linkage to the first issue that we are arguing on in the first place. Wow.. That’s the part I most hated! You quarrel on this issue first and yet bring up another matter to add on the fire.
Hey, Hello! Get the facts clear before making your point. I don’t think I got any wrong loh.

I understand that humans tend to be selfish creature at times but you do not push your friend to the fire and care only about yourself when things happened, right? Feels so betrayed and cheated at the thought of it. Friends should have mutual understanding and stand by each other no matter what happens.
Plus, admit your mistake when YOU are in the wrong. Don’t push the blame to others. At least that’s how I feel.

I appreciate that article. It really does make some sense but I don’t think I can forgive her yet. I don’t like to pretend that nothing has happened. Maybe I really have to learn the art of forgiving and letting go slowly and how to live my life happier. All I need for now was more time to absorb this teaching. I also don’t like the way how things are now.